Which of These Churches Do You Belong To? by ‘Brother Bill’
Are you charter members of the toothless church of nice or the spiritual church of relationship with the trinity of kind thru Jesus?
Are you charter members of the toothless church of nice that’s killing Christianity? Or God’s spiritual church of relationship with the trinity of kind thru Jesus?
There is a huge difference biblically, between “nice” and “kind”. Scripture consistently supports truth spoken in love, boundaries, correction, and fatherly responsibility, not conflict-avoidant niceness.
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1. Kindness is a Fruit of the Spirit (not “nice”)
Galatians 5:22–23 (KJV)
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”
(“Gentleness” and “goodness” here align with active, truth-anchored kindness, not passivity.)
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2. Truth Must Be Spoken in Love (Not Avoided)
Ephesians 4:15 (KJV)
“But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:”
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3. Love Confronts and Corrects
Proverbs 27:5–6 (KJV)
“Open rebuke is better than secret love.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
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4. Boundaries and Correction Prevent Destruction
Proverbs 13:24 (KJV)
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”
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5. A Father’s Responsibility to Address Rebellion
Proverbs 22:6 (KJV)
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Hebrews 12:7 (KJV)
“If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?”
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6. Relationship Without Boundaries Leads to Disorder
Judges 21:25 (KJV)
“In those days there was no king in Israel: every man did that which was right in his own eyes.”
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7. Authority and Love Are Meant to Work Together
Proverbs 29:15 (KJV)
“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”
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Summary (Biblical Pattern)
• Nice avoids conflict → Scripture does not endorse this
• Kindness = truth + love + correction
• Rules without relationship provoke rebellion (cf. Colossians 3:21)
• Relationship without boundaries produces lawlessness
• Fathers are biblically tasked with loving discipline and guidance.
Below are complete KJV passages (public domain) that clearly teach biblical confrontation, witnesses, church discipline, separation when there is no repentance, and restoration when possible. These directly support what you described.
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1. Jesus’ Direct Teaching on Confrontation and Church Discipline
Matthew 18:15–17 (KJV)
“Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.
And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.”
This is the clearest teaching from Jesus:
• Private confrontation
• Witnesses
• Church involvement
• Removal from fellowship if rebellion continues
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2. Removing Unrepentant Sin from the Church
1 Corinthians 5:11–13 (KJV)
“But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.”
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3. Public Sin Requires Public Correction
1 Timothy 5:20 (KJV)
“Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.”
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4. Warning, Then Separation After Repeated Rebellion
Titus 3:10–11 (KJV)
“A man that is an heretick after the first and second admonition reject;
Knowing that he that is such is subverted, and sinneth, being condemned of himself.”
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5. Marking and Avoiding Those Who Cause Division
Romans 16:17 (KJV)
“Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them.”
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6. Withdrawal—but Still With Redemptive Purpose
2 Thessalonians 3:6 (KJV)
“Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye withdraw yourselves from every brother that walketh disorderly, and not after the tradition which he received of us.”
2 Thessalonians 3:14–15 (KJV)
“And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed.
Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.”
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7. Even Apostles Were Confronted When Wrong
Galatians 2:11 (KJV)
“But when Peter was come to Antioch, I withstood him to the face, because he was to be blamed.”
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8. Correction Is an Act of Love
Proverbs 27:5 (KJV)
“Open rebuke is better than secret love.”
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Biblical Pattern (Consistent and Clear)
• Love does not ignore sin
• Truth requires confrontation
• Witnesses establish accountability
• The church protects holiness
• Separation is corrective, not hateful
• Restoration is always the goal
This is not “niceness.”
This is biblical kindness, order, and love in truth.
