The Proverbs 31 Wife; Does She Still Exist? – Sunday Thought For The Day
Marriages can suffer for a number of reasons and among the greater of these reasons is a husband who doesn’t properly perform his role as the priest, i.e., head of the home; the other is a wife who demands and/or expects to have her own way; who doesn’t respect her husband’s role in the home.
In my years in ministry, every time I’ve had a parent tell me their daughter always gets her way I see red flags and misery. If that satanic attitude is dealt with, the marriage is doomed or it will be one silent suffering for the husband.
“It’s important to remember here that a difference in roles doesn’t mean “unequal.” God doesn’t consider wives inferior, inadequate, less important, or less responsible than husbands. Besides, only an unwise man would reject his wife’s opinions and assistance. After all, the Lord has created her to be his best earthly resource. … if a husband and wife have a healthy relationship, they make decisions together as equals, looking to Christ as the ultimate Head of their home. They compare their individual aptitudes and assume tasks based on their individual strengths. In some areas of service they share tasks. But they also recognize that, in the final analysis, the husband carries the greater responsibility for leadership. … If we are looking to Jesus Christ as our model, this can only mean one thing: the man is supposed to follow the path of a servant-leader. … A spiritual servant-leader, then, imitates Christ. He’s tuned in to his family’s needs and concerned for its spiritual welfare. He looks for ways to help its members grow in their relationship with God. He provides physical support, grace, and encouragement. He is ready to protect, help, and defend. In hard times and good times, in season and out of season, he’s ready to lay down his life for those who have been entrusted to his care.” (Excerpt from The Complete Guide to the First Five Years of Marriage, a Focus on the Family book published by Tyndale House Publishers. Copyright ¬© 2006, Focus on the Family.)
The enemy of our souls hates God, he hates order and he absolutely hates obedience. Anything he can do to destroy the biblical marriage, he will do – enter the corrosive evil called feminism. In the marital relationship even the slightest involvement with feminism is a disruptive factor. Feminism has nothing to do with Christ-centered obedience to God’s word.
Feminism is a tool of Satan intended to erode and destroy the biblical roles of men and women; husbands and wives. Satan is liar and the father of lies. (John 8:44 KJV) Godly men and Godly women know this.
The devil knows his time is limited and his goal is to do as much damage and destruction to the family as possible. Why help him by not truly living our lives for Christ. Let each of us ask ourselves why we would want less than the best in our marriages than God has for us?
I’ve seen many men place a woman on a pedestal only later to realize the error. I’ve seen daughters marry weak, angry, insecure men, who mask said traits by being manipulative and emotionally dishonest. Even worse, I’ve seen men and women forfeit the best God has for them because, they’re blinded by the shiny person they think they cannot live without.
This is yet another instance, that the need for wisdom, understanding and discernment cannot be overstated.
Proverbs 31:10-31 (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
About the Author
Mychal S. Massie is an ordained minister who spent 13 years in full-time Christian Ministry. Today he serves as founder and Chairman of the Racial Policy Center (RPC), a think tank he officially founded in September 2015. RPC advocates for a colorblind society. He was founder and president of the non-profit “In His Name Ministries.” He is the former National Chairman of a conservative Capitol Hill think tank; and a former member of the think tank National Center for Public Policy Research. Read entire bio here